Equality and Feminist Movements In 2013 (Warning: NSFW-Language And Excessive use of caps)--

Alright, I think this blog entry will come to you in two parts.  Because I feel like these two subjects go together perfectly.  Hand and hand.  Also, I think that Feminism is something that needs to be talked about especially from a newbie into the great wide world of BDSM.  Also my gender has recently been used as a means to silence me recently, so I thought that since I could not bring myself out of this downward spiral, I would journal about it.


First of all, a bit of history on the difference of gender and sex.  Gender and sex are two very different things!  I bet you didn't know that?  If you did, I will give you a slow clap of approval.  Sociologist and various other anthropologists say that sex is something that is biological.  Or in other words something that you are born as.  Male, female, even transsexual.  Now, gender is where it gets tricky and becomes a thing that the society agrees and makes rules for.  It's basically the old school rules of little girls should wear pink and boys wear blue, women work inside while men work outside doing yard work and car repair.  I am not saying I buy into the roles of gender that society gives me, I am just saying that it exists.  After all, as much as I would love it to be otherwise, just because you don't like something, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.  However, we do have the chance to change it as a society.

I have recently learned that there is a branch of feminism that exists that says that only until we do away with the idea of gender will we truly be equal.  I can't help but agree.  After all, SOME America is behind the times as far as gender roles.  You know who you little assholes are!  Your the type that think that women don't NEED birth control, women don't NEED to be paid equally, and women's reproductive habits SHOULD be a subject that the man is privy to.  ANYONE who thinks that women are just creatures built for creating babies, being married, and raising a house, I laugh at your stupidity.  To be clear right now, I do not have problems with home makers.  If a woman wants to be a home maker, she should have that ability.  But I do have a problem with home makers not recognized as a job.  And while I am this topic, I have absolutely no problem with a man being a home maker, and if you are a male and a home maker, I give you a standing ovation!  Good job!!  My hat is off to home makers whether they are intentional or forced into that place, they are awesome.  My mom is a home maker and I love her with my whole heart.

Now where was I going with this before I went off on my feminist rant---

RIGHT ASSHOLES!

So, the other day, I was sitting at a place I volunteer.  This place is so religious, it makes Jesus Christ himself scratch his head and say, "Come on now people, this is getting a little heavy handed."  But I do it because I have been doing it since I was a child and I do it to support my family.  Now here is where it gets good, and good here means utterly terrible.

A good friend of mine stands up and is talking.  Trying to promote the payment of the man who leads this organization, who hasn't been paid for outstanding performance (yes this is one of those non profits that pay the leaders) and is trying to keep the lights on to this organization.  And this is when a man jumps up and says and I shit you not, "Well, you shouldn't even hold this office cause you are a woman.  It is unbiblical to hold office as a woman and you shouldn't be doing this."  I looked over at the person talking and I could feel my jaw drop.  The scripture he called into question was:

I Corinthians 14:34
the women should be silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak. Rather, let them be in submission, as in fact the law says.

It was at this time I wanted to stand up and call into question not only the oral history of the bible, how the bible was written by MEN a million years ago, but also where the fuck does he get off?  I mean, how can you say something like that to a volunteer!?  WHAT YEAR DO YOU THINK YOU ARE CURRENTLY LIVING IN YOU HOT BAG OF SHIT?!  Alright, I have nothing against organized religion or those that think that women should be silent, I got news for you, THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT HAPPENED!  GET OVER IT!!  God made everyone equal!  A gay white man is just as equal as a black transsexual is as equal as a Mexican straight female!  What the fuck people!?  When will we stop beating each other with religion?  When will we realize that?

Alright, now to make this puppy go full circle.  How does this pertain to BDSM lifestyle?  *Pops knuckles* Here we go.

Equality and feminism is still a very important topic in BDSM and one that I am told by both submissive and dominants is a very important and vital eco-structure in the culture.  No dominant is superior in anyway to submissives.  I am told that in a proper, healthy relationship that no there is not.  A dominant is equal to a submissive.  One cannot exist without the other.  And submissives, if you feel inferior to your dominant outside of play, get out, you are in a a dependent relationship.  If you have more to say on this, please leave a comment.  I am a newbie and only know what I remember to ask about.

Until next post: I hope that you are happy and healthy!